Brainard's Pole Barn

This is a painting on Roger and Gloria Brainards pole barn outside of Otsego. A tribute to their hero Kevin. If you didn't know the story you would think he died an honorable death. That he was an up standing citizen and person.

Well we know that is all a lie. Kevin did not die a hero. He died a murderer and coward! Kevin shot at my sister four times. Three hit her in the neck and face. This was no accident. Kevin could have stopped after one and called for help. NO he shot her two more times. Took off for an hour. He then came back and shot himself. So in my book this was no accident.

The angel in the left hand corner shocked me. These people think he is in heaven. That God and his angels are watching over him. Uh NO, Kevin is in HELL!!! Burning for eternity.

The Strength of A Woman

Women have strengths that amaze men.

They bear hardships and they carry burdens,but they hold happiness,love and joy.

They smile when they want to scream.

They sing when they want to cry.

They cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous.

They fight for what they believe in.

They stand up to injustice.

They don't take 'no' for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.

They go without so their family can have.

They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.

They love unconditionally.

They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.

They are happy when they hear about birth or a wedding.

Their hearts break when a friend dies.

They grieve at the loss of a family member,yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.

They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.Women come in all shapes, sizes and colors.

They'll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.

The heart of a woman is what makes the world keep turning.

They bring joy, hope and love.

They have compassion and ideals.

They give moral support to their family and friends.

Women have vital things to say and everything to give.

However, if there is one tiny flaw in women,
It is that they forget their worth.

I received this poem about women and I started crying. It is still so hard for me to believe that women are treated with such callousness and disregard. No wonder women forget what their worth. We live in a society that is appalled by domestic violence, yet when it’s visible society doesn’t really want to see it.
My best friend was murdered one year ago by her police officer husband in front of her two year old daughter. Pam didn’t stand a chance. She was turned away by two local domestic violence agencies because she was told that it would be her word against a police officer. She had also gone to marriage counseling and told her side of the story but nobody seemed to hear her. On Sunday November 4th 2007 she finally confided in a coworker about the abuse she had suffered for the last three years. She stated that Kevin had choked her on their wedding night and then went running down the middle of the road with their seven month old daughter in his arms. Pam had to call his parents who lived down the block to come and get him out of the road. When Pam came home from work that night Kevin murdered her in front of their almost two year old daughter.
Pam’s murderer then committed suicide. Their daughter was found crying on her parents bed with both of her parents dead in the hallway. She is now an orphan because of selfishness.
In the aftermath of our loved one being murdered we were subjected to verbal abuse from the murders family and friends even the community kept saying this was the murder victims fault that she was shot to death in her own home. Pam drove him to do this. One family member even when as far as to say she deserved it.
What kind of message does this send to women everywhere. It tells us we are not worth as much as a man. Kevin Brainard was a murder and he is being portrayed as a hero. His nephew even victimizes Pam’s son about how is uncle was a hero. Kyle and Kayla no longer have a mother because she was shot to death by a hero. We as a society should be ashamed to call this man a hero after he murdered a woman. Would the courts have hailed him as a hero for murdering a woman. Ken DeKleine of Holland Michigan was not hailed a hero when he murdered his wife. He is serving a life sentence for murder. His children do not have a mother to love them any longer because he took that from them. He is not hailed a hero. So why is Kevin Brainard hailed a hero when he did the same thing. Is it because he took the coward’s way out? Who burys a murderer in his police uniform and protests because he doesn’t get a fire fighter burial, a last ride on the fire truck. What kind of community does this? Plainwell and Otsego Michigan get that honor.

CANDLELIGHT VIGIL FOR LORI DEKLEINE, JANUARY 10, 2009

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From: Patti Ticknor
To: Family and Friends of Lori [DeKleine]
Subject:Lori DeKleine Memorial Service/Candlelight Vigil January 10, 2009

Dear Family and Friends of Lori,
I would like to invite you to a Memorial Service/Candlelight Vigil to honor Lori's memory and God's faithfulness on the one year anniversary of her tragic death. The candlelight vigil portion will be held to generate awareness of the issue of domestic violence.

It will be held on January 10, 2009 at 6:00 p.m. at Holland Heights Christian Reformed Church located at 836 East 8th Street Holland, MI 49423. Dress to be outside around a tree that was planted in her memory. If the weather is terrible, we will be in the gym. A time of fellowship and warm beverages will be provided after.

As I do not have all the emails of all the people that may want to attend this, please feel free to forward this email to anyone you feel would have an interest in coming.

Donations in Lori's memory can be made to the “DeKleine Children's Trust” and mailed to PO Box 2034 Holland, MI 49422.

Contact:
Patti Ticknor (Lori DeKleine’s sister)
paticknor@yahoo.com



836 8th Street, Holland Michigan 49423

IT'S MOMENTS LIKE THESE, AS TO WHY I LOVE MY WORK WITH MIOIDV :)

I walked to the post office today, to pick up that certified letter that I thought might be the court's decision on the November 24th provisional order. NOT. The letter was from Alltel regarding a complaint I had filed with them. Sigh. So I am still in a holding pattern.

While I was out and about, I decided to head over to Walgreens and stock up on Christmas candles at their 75% Christmas clearance sale. Figure if the ex has the electricity shut off [as he has in the past], than at least I will have candles for light, eh.


So I was in this crowded aisle with all these other women, grabbing all these clearance items, when one of the women turned to me...out of everyone else jammed in that aisle...and remarked, "is this ever cute," as she held up this huge Pooh Bear and Tigger snow globe for me to look at.

Before I go any further, let me explain about Pooh Bear and Tigger. Pam Aukerman, who was murdered by her ex-husband, Officer Kevin Brainard [Plainwell Michigan PD] on November 4, 2007, collected Pooh Bear and Tigger items. Pam even had Pooh Bear and Tigger Christmas ornaments and the Pooh Bear and Tigger Christmas village.

Immediately after Pam's murder, the Brainard family gained access to Pam's and Kevin's home and took everything out of the house...including all of Pam's belongings. The Aukerman's had not one item of their sister/daughter. And to make matters worse, one of the Brainard's would often post comments on the Pam Aukerman site, about the Pooh Bear and Tigger items of Pam's that they had taken from the house, after Pam's murder.

Well today, before I left for the post office, I called and chatted with Jen Aukerman [Pam's sister] and Jen was telling me how hard of a Christmas she had without her sister...and the other difficulties they are still facing with the Brainards in regards to settling Pam's estate. You know, my heart just went out to Jen...and what makes it so frustrating for me, is that as Jen's advocate I can't just get in my car and drive up to be with her through these rough times, because [ahem] according to the ex, the ex's attorney, and the court, I don't deserve a vehicle.

So I was feeling like I was really letting Jen down by not being there for her and knowing how hard Christmas is for her without her sister...and wishing that broke ass me could do something...just anything...to brighten her mood just a little bit.

And now, here I am standing in this crowded aisle at Walgreens with this woman showing me of all things, a Pooh Bear and Tigger Christmas globe...what are the chances?

I grabbed the last snow globe off the shelf as I told the woman about Pam's murder...Pam's love of Pooh Bear and Tigger...and the significance of this snow globe to her sister.

When I got home, I called Jen and told her about the snow globe that I had purchased for her...and how I would have never picked it up, if this stranger in the store had not talked to me. "You know Jen, it was as if Pam was taping me on the shoulder and saying, 'Hey, I want that...'."

So now, Jen now has a Pooh Bear and Tigger Christmas decoration, that Jen and I would like to believe that Pam herself picked out ;)

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Christmas poem for Pam

Pam Aukerman
Christmas 2008
The holiday season is upon us once again, though are christmases will never be as we once knew. There is a void now that cab never be filled no matter how hard we try. Though we must carry on we will miss you, some tears will fall, thoughts of you will be strong. Past christmas memories of you will be strong and may bring a smile, of those beautiful memories and wishing all was the way it should be. You are by our sides. As we carry on this holiday season, you will be in our hearts and souls Thru all, the candles we light for you, Each snow flake that falls each gift we wrap, each carol sung, in all the lights on our trees. In the christmas season and prayers in the sparkle of your childrens eyes. In every memory of you we treasure and christmases past. You are and always are a part of our christmas celebration just in a new and different way. So this season as you celebrate in heaven smile your beautiful smile, sing and dance among the angles. You are loved, we are with you as you are with us.
All our love,
Mom and Dad
Kyle and Kayla
Jen, David, and Peggy
The children
Granny and Grandpa
And of course Nanny

7-2-74 Pamela Ann Aukerman 11-4-07

One year ago today you left us so suddenly and tragically. Our world forever changed now we live with an empty space in our hearts and souls. We will never be the people we were one year ago today. We live and go on by faith and god's promise someday we will all be together again for eternity. We find comfort and strength in knowing you are in heaven with our lord among the angels where no more harm can come to you. There will be no more pain or suffering and only happy tears for you. Though it does not stop our hearts from aching or our tears from flowing or the void we must now live with. It does not stop us from missing you so or from missing your beautiful smile, your laugh, your silly sense of humor, your strength and knowledge. You loved life and lived it to the fullest. It does not stop us from having that empty space at family gatherings, special events or the holidays we all must face without you. We miss calling you on the phone to chat or just have lunch. All the everyday things that are so precious in life that we take for granted our faith does not stop all of the above and more. It carries us through each day, each minute until we meet again. Until then you live on in our hearts and souls.

We love you,
Kyle, Kayla, Dad, Mom, Jen, David, Peggy, Baby David, Chase, Chelsie, Mariah, Jonathon, and Logan

MICHIGAN OFFICER INVOLVED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AWARENESS ANNUAL CANDLELIGHT VIGIL .
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DATE: November 04, 2008 [first anniversary of Pam Aukerman’s murder by Officer Kevin Brainard of the Plainwell PD]. http://pamaukermanbrainard.blogspot.com

TIME: 7:00 P.M.

LOCATION: Brookside Park, Ostego MI [located off of M-89]

Contributions to further MIOIDV's cause will be greatly appreciated.

Officer Kevin Brainard is the only to BLAME?????

Never has the Aukerman family or friends blamed Roger, Gloria, Kim, for Kevin murdering Pam. The Aukermans blame Roger, Gloria, Kim for how they for handled themselves AFTER the murder.

1.) When my parents said they would be over to the Brainard's home to see Kayla. You ran to the courthouse to file emergency guardianship papers out. You lied about my parents. It was said my parents didn't want Kayla. That Pam didn't want Kayla at my parents home. And so on. What is even worse then that. Our family had the police called on them. You made us out to be bad people. IT DID NOT HAVE TO BE THIS WAY!

2.) Before anyone had permission to enter the home, You cleaned it out! You tore my sisters belongings. You tore her medical bag apart. How disrespectful!

3.) You bad mouthed Pam. You made all these excuses up as to why Kevin killed her. He took on her ex's debt her credit card bills and so on. My sister made two to three times more money then Kevin! She did not need that from him.

I could go on forever. This website is Pam's family and friends! It's ours to write anything we want. If the Brainards and Kim our offended by what we write. Stop acting like you are. We are not lying, we don't have a reason to.

Kayla is our baby girl. We love her so much and the games you played with us over her is unforgivable! We needed to come together for her and Kyle. They needed us to be strong for them. If you really took a look at the situation you would know Kayla wants to be here. Since day one she has told us all. So you need to look at yourself because when Kayla is older she'll ask why and how. She'll come to her own conclusions. We don't have to bad mouth the Brainards or Kim. Their actions will speak for them!

One more thing, have you asked yourselves how could Kevin have done this to Pam if he loved his daughter?

A memory of Pam

On Saturday I was on my way to drop off Chase, he was staying with his friend. Well I passed a garage sale. I had to stop. I promised Chase this was the only one. Chase of course found something he wanted. He went up to ask the lady hoe much it was, he did not believe me as usual. Well the lady turned out to be a lady I would go to church with. She thought Chase looked like my younger brother David, she looked at me and said Jennifer. We were talking and then Chase said my moms sister died he said, she was a nurse. Chase has not spoken out loud to a stranger about Pam. So I started to tell the story, the lady sitting next to the lady asked if she was an OB nurse . She was holding a young child. A child Pam helped deliver. She was one year and two days. She remembered Pam, her nurse. Pam loved working with the babies and mothers. She worked so hard to get there. To Pam it was worth it! She was proud of herself and we as her family was proud. Pam was remembered by her patients! Pam was right by my side when I gave birth. She was great! She was a great mom! A great Friend! Forever is a huge word. For eternity; without end. It is still so unreal.
Last summer Pam and I were camping ( I was with my ex-husband). One day the ex said to me "the next time your family sees you, you'll be in the obituary. When I told my sister that day. She was ready to call my parents. She insisted I go to the YWCA. We picked when I was moving, July 29. Chelsie's birthday. I moved to my parents. Two months later Pam was murdered in cold blood! I replay the phone calls with him. Trying to see if there were any signals before the last call. It was to late she was gone. The world lost a good soul. She touched so many life's. She loved and was loved. A part of me is missing. Pam I miss you.Goodnight

MICHIGAN OFFICER INVOLVED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CORP. MEETING

JEN IS ORGANIZING A MEETING FOR MIOIDV [GRANTS/FUNDING] FOR SUNDAY, SEPTEMBER 21, 2008 @ 5:00 PM. IF YOU ARE INTERESTED IN ATTENDING, PLEASE CONTACT JEN AT:
mioidvpamslaw@aol.com

MY DEAR MISS KIM BRAINARD-WHEELER

How dare you contact me and demand that I remove Kyle's signature from the petition for his mother's Officer-Involved Domestic Violence Law.

Kyle's mother was murdered by your brother. If you want to talk about laws and rights, where were they for Kyle on the night your brother brutally his mother?

Your brother denied Kyle's mother the right to live. And now you want to deny Kyle the right to sign his name on a petition for a law in honor of his mother, that will protect other victims, because he's not 18 years old?

If you want to address laws, Miss Kim, why don't you address the laws that your brother violated when he abused Pam...and the ultimate law he violated when he murdered Pam?

The fact that your signature and the signatures of anyone in your family are not on Pam's law, says a lot Kim. It demonstrates how much in denial you are about your brother's murder of Pam and how defensive you are in defending your brother and his murderous action.

And if you are in denial about your brother's murder of Pam, then it goes hand in hand that you are in denial of the amount of pain Kyle is in...and the strength, determination, and true grit it has taken for that child to get through each and every painful day, that his mother has laid buried under six feet of dirt.

Oh no Kim, you want to hurt that child even further, and tell him his name has to come off his mother's petition, because you say so.

Why Kim? Why do you want to hurt Kyle even more? Don't you think Kyle is hurt enough? Why must you continue to badger him?

Why is Pam's murder a war with you and your family? Why are you filled with such hatred for Kyle? Where is your respect for Kyle, and the rest of Pam's family?

And please Kim, don't tell me that you are being hateful and hurtful towards Kyle, in an effort to protect your brother's name, or because you claim you suffered a loss greater than Kyle. That doesn't hold water, because in all honesty, there is no rational explanation for your cruel and hateful actions against Kyle, since his mother was murdered.

Normal people Kim, do not display such hatred and disrespect to a child and a family who have lost someone...especially to murderer/ at the hands of another person. Usually Kim, people in your situation, if they can't embrace the victim's family, just step aside out of respect and zip their mouths. Out of respect, Kim, people in your position don't climb up on a soap box and scream to the world how much of a hero the murderer was, and chew the victim and the victim's family to shreds, to deliberatly cause more pain. They just don't, Kim.

I manage the MIOIDV website, Kim, and I never get hateful comments or hateful posts from abuser's/murderer's families defending their abusing/murdering relative's actions. For that matter, Kim, I don't ever receive hateful emails/posts from my abuser's family and friends...even though numerous Monroe County residents visit the MIOIDV on a daily basis.

What does that tell you Kim? Go over to the MIOIDV website and look at the large number of OIDV cases I have posted over there...and there is not one angry, revengeful, hate filled comment posted by the perp's family.

So tell me Kim, how in the hell do you rationalize to yourself and to others the pain you have intentionally inflicted upon Kyle? And most importantly Kim, if you hate Kyle so much, why don't you just go away...just leave him alone? What sick pleasure do you derive from attacking Kyle? What sick void does it fill for you, to viciously attack Kyle?

Renee' Harrington

POLICE REPORT OF ROGER BRAINARD'S STATEMENT TO THE POLICE, FOLLOWING PAM AUKERMAN'S MURDER

I have been sitting on this police report for several weeks now. But today [after a weekend of working on a media statement for MIOIDV for Lori DeKleine's family...and after two days of updating Lori's website and MIOIDV's website], I happened upon the "Kevin [Brainard] is a hero" website. GASP!

How in the heck can a murder be considered a hero...and for the Brainard family to flaunt this in front of the Aukerman family? Well, that is just beyond comprehension.

In their August 23rd post on Kevin is hero site, the Brainard family member attempted to explain that Kevin is a hero for what he did all the way up until he emptied three rounds into Pam. Hullo!? Excuse me? He's a frickin murderer. End of story.

But wait, the post went on to say that they wanted Pam's website to stop with the BS. Hullo??!! I am getting so darn tired of the Brainard family and supporters attacking Pam's family and friends, each time they dare to speak the truth.

One of the messages that Pam's family/friends have consistently attempted to get out is that Pam did not have to die...her murder could have been prevented. However, the Brainard's have been the first ones to attack this claim...stating time after time, that no one knew anything about Kevin's abuse of Pam, or that Pam was in any danger. And if memory serves me right, the Brainards' attack on the Aukerman's was quite vicious, each time the Aukermans maintained that the Brainards knew about Kevin's violence towards Pam.

PRIOR TO KEVIN MURDERING PAM, HE CALLED HIS FATHER [ROGER BRAINARD] AND TOLD HIM "IF THE POLICE CAME TO HIS HOUSE LATE THAT NIGHT THAT HE SHOULD NOT ANSWER THE DOOR, THAT SOMETHING BAD HAD HAPPENED."

AFTER RECEIVING THAT PHONE CALL FROM KEVIN, ON NOVEMBER 04, 2008, ROGER BRAINARD FAILED TO CALL THE POLICE. IN FACT, ROGER DID NOTHING. PAM AUKERMAN WAS MURDERED BY HER EX-HUSBAND, OFFICER KEVIN BRAINARD, SHORTLY AFTER KEVIN MADE THAT PHONE CALL AND SHORTLY AFTER SHE CAME HOME FROM WORK THAT EVENING.

IF ROGER HAD CALLED THE POLICE AND REPORTED KEVIN'S PHONE CALL, PAM MAY BE ALIVE TODAY.





POLICE REPORT OF ROGER BRAINARD'S PHONE CONVERSATION WITH HIS SON/OFFICER KEVIN BRAINARD, SHORTLY BEFORE PAM AUKERMAN WAS MURDERED, ON NOVEMBER 04, 2008.

Otsego Police Department Otsego, MI 49078
Complaint #1569-07
Reported by Chief Konkle Murder/Suicide

Complaint Date: 11/08/07

Supplemental Report
INFORMATION:
On 11/08/07 at approximately 12:45 pm I responded along with Officer Borgman to 707 Brookside Dr. on a Peace Officer call. When we arrived the family of Kevin Brainard was requesting an Officer to stand by while they removed items for the Brainard's baby that was staying with Kevin Brainard's parents.
While at the address I was contacted by Kevin Brainard's father Roger Brainard at approximately 1:30 pm. Mr. Brainard was asking me questions in regards to the funeral reference what the Fire Department's participation would be in the funeral. After talking with him for several minutes and consoling him on his son's death he stated to me that he wasn't going to lie, that his son Kevin had talked to him the evening before the suicide/homicide, that he had told his father that if the Police came to his house late that night that he should not answer the door that something bad had happened. He stated that he didn't think anything of it at the time other than they knew that they were having trouble. He stated that he didn't take it that Kevin was going to commit any crime or commit suicide. He stated it was just a comment that his son had made to him and that he felt he needed to make us aware of that. I thanked him for his honest and advised him that like himself I found it hard to believe that this occurred. I thanked him for his honesty and gave my condolences to his family.
End of report

The Start Of Something Great

[Originally posted March 2008]

We are here to help victims of Officer Involved Domestic Violence, when they are failed by law enforcement, Domestic Violence agencies, the community, the church and family members we will be here for them. Why are we fighting so hard you may ask, this kind of support was not around for Pam Aukerman or Lori DeKleine and we do not want another woman to die from neglect. I’ve heard it stated that there was nothing that could be done to save Pam so we need to stop talking about it. I beg to differ, that statement is unacceptable and deadly to another victim of Officer Involved Domestic Violence. Pam was not helped by Domestic Violence agencies because her abuser was a hometown hero that could never do anything like that, she was also let down by the Plainwell Police department that chose to ignore a tip that Kevin was in fact going to murder his wife. Kevin murdered Pam 48 hours after the Plainwell Police department was notified. Gloria Brainard [Officer Kevin Brainard's mother] begged Pam to stay just one more week, which ensured her death. If just one of these situations had been taken seriously the outcome would have been different.

If things are just accepted as there was nothing that could be done we are unable to save another person. How can we save lives so no family has to go through this kind of pain and suffering. I will not accept that nothing can be done it is now my mission in life to ensure that victims of Officer Involved Domestic Violence have a voice and are heard when their lives are in danger.

Action speaks louder than words. I am a person of action and will use this tragedy to help others. I have learned so much in the four months since Kevin murdered Pam and I am confident that we can make a change in how victims of Officer Involved Domestic Violence are viewed. They were both to blame is not an acceptable statement, all couples fight is not an acceptable statement. A woman who is physically, verbally, and emotionally abused and then murdered is no longer going to be blamed for her death. It was stated on this site that no one did anything to Pam except Kevin, that is not true, in her death she has been blamed for her own murder. That is the most destructive thing that could possibly be said about this bright shining star. She is re victimized everytime that statement is made. A woman is never to blame when she is murdered. Nothing on earth justifies murder, NOTHING.


We have started the Michigan Officer Involved Domestic Violence Corporation to save lives. I will not let these special victims fall through the cracks any longer. Pam Aukerman was a beautiful bright shining star that was taken away from us by a monster. We are using our new found knowledge to help others that are facing the same type of abuse Pam faced. This program can be duplicated in all fifty states to help woman all over the country who are victims of Officer Involved Domestic Violence, woman that are dismissed by the very people who are supposed to protect them. In one hundred years what we have started in 2008 will be around to help those without a voice. We are starting something that is bigger than the communities of Plainwell and Otsego. These areas can bury their heads in the sand like ostriches but we are moving forward with our fight for victims of Office Involved Domestic Violence.


We are starting another non profit foundation to ensure that Pam Aukerman’s legacy lives forever. It’s called the Pam Aukerman Legacy Foundation. Our purpose is to continue Pam’s work to help families in need. We will not let Pam die in vain. She will never be forgotten, nor will how she was brutally murdered be forgotten. If we allow her to be forgotten we are telling all victims of Officer Involved Domestic Violence that they aren’t important enough to be remembered for fought for. How sad it is that speaking about Pam being murdered is being viewed as disgusting. What is disgusting the fact that I will never be able to see her again, call her on the phone again, ask her a stupid question that only she knows the answer to. I miss her so much and will never let anyone forget this wonderful soul that was taken from us too soon.

I am challenging the Brainards and Wheelers once again, be part of the solution not part of the problem. You profess your love for Pam, help get her law passed so no other families have to endure that heartache.

Laura Spars

Pam was an awesome person! Anyone that knew her knows that. We have great talks of her. She is never far from us. As her sister I have made the decision to share what her life was like with Kevin. And I also decided to share what our life has been like after Pam's murder. Because Pam would want to educate another victim. To educate another victims family. Some people think that this site is not of education material. That all we do is slam Kevin and his family. Not at all, we are stating all facts and if they sound bad to you think of what this B.S. is doing to me, my family, most of all Kyle and Kayla.
We have had great success with victims. We are helping here in our own community and elsewhere in Michigan. We are making great progress and we are building a support group for victims and there families. I am very proud of this site and MIOIDV. My sister did not die in vain. She will continue to live on.
The one thing my sister wanted more then anything was to divorce Kevin. To finally be free of him. To be safe. THAT IS WHY WE GAVE HER, HER LAST NAME BACK, AUKERMAN!!! So get over it.

TAKE A BOW, PLAINWELL

I recently found out that shortly before Lori DeKleine [ http://michiganoidv.blogspot.com/2008/07/officer-ken-dekleines-trial-for-murder.html]
was murdered by her ex-husband, Officer Ken DeKleine [Holland PD], that she viewed Pamela's website.

Instead of a victim of OIDV finding a community who was outraged by the recent OIDV murder of Pam, and perhaps finding a community that she could turn to, Lori instead found that Plainwell was very supportive of Officer Kevin Brainard and viewed Pam's murderer as a hero.

Any outrage that Lori found in Plainwell, was unfortunately over Pam's family and friends speaking out...and of course the hatred expressed at a dead victim of OIDV in which Pam was often referred to as a 'bitch' and a 'whore'. At the same time that the public was vocally expressing its hatred at Pam, the Chief of Police of Plainwell commanded the citizens to remember all the good Officer Brainard did and not for his murder of Pam.

Meanwhile, just a few miles away, a victim of OIDV who was fighting for her life, was taking in Plainwell's response to Pam's murder. Is it any wonder that after Pam's murder, that Lori vocally began expressing her fear that her ex-husband/Officer Ken DeKleine would kill her?

Instead of Plainwell offering Lori hope, Plainwell confirmed Lori's worse fears: that communities do not care about victims of OIDV, and that their plight is hopeless because there is no where for them to turn.

So take a bow Plainwell. Instead of being outraged about Pam's murder and making a difference for other victims of OIDV, you reinforced to victims what their abusers tell them: "no one cares, because I'm a police officer".

Happy Birthday Pam

July 2, 2008

Happy Birthday Pam

Today we celebrate your birthday with your spirit. Your birth is precious and the memory of your precious life is reason to celebrate and remember all that you stood for.

A wonderful , beautiful caring daughter, whom is missed so much words can’t express.

A wonderful mother who loved her children and wants only the best for them.

A mother that even in death is looking out for her children through the lord.

A wonderful sister who was also a very good friend, the sister that always stood strong and was always there in the good times and the bad times, with strength, love and laughter.

An aunt that her nieces and nephews only new as Aunty Pam, and Aunty Pam was always loving caring, gentle and funny that loved to tease.

A granddaughter that made her grandparents proud from birth on. A granddaughter who is loved dearly and missed even more.

A first niece that made her aunt so proud and happy. They loved each other as only aunts and nieces do.

A nurse that was loving, caring, dedicated and always went the extra step to console and comfort those in need. A nurse that always was willing to learn how to better care for her patients. A nurse that helped several new lives come into the world, what a wonderful legacy to be remembered by.

A friend to many. A friend that was always there. A friend you could trust and could count on, loyal , trustworthy, faithful, fun and a joy to be around. A confidant was always just a phone call away.

Pam was a woman who stood tall and strong. She believed in herself and her abilities. She had morals, values, standards, honesty, respect for others. She loved and cared deeply. She believed life was to live and enjoy not something to get through. She was thankful for life, thankful for her children, family and friends.

So today we must stand strong as we each recall memories and hope she will forgive us if we cry a little, or smile a little as we each celebrate this day in remembering Pam.

Remember Pam is dancing with the angels wearing that beautiful smile she always wears and standing strong with our Lord Jesus Christ. Happy Birthday Pam we love and miss you very much.

My love always,

Mom

Movin On

Of all the places to post your comment Kim, you had to do it on Pam’s Law. Are you so self obsorbed that you don’t realize there are other losers doing the exact same thing your loser brother did to Pam. Do you even take the time to read about other victims that have either lost their lives or have been abused in just this past few months. Did you know there was a woman by the name of Lori DeKleine who was strangled to death by her loser husband just two months after your loser brother shot and murdered Pam, she lived in the county neighboring yours. Sorry I am not going away. To much is at stake to let you thugs drive me away. Pam’s family and friends are not the only ones going through this kind of tragedy, there are other families suffering as well but you are oblivious to that.

Let’s talk about lies. Do you remember all the lies you told about Pam and her family right after this happened? Do you remember telling people that Pam's debt was from supporting her ex husband do you remember that? Do you remember telling people that she had cheated on Kevin that’s why he did this? Do you remember all of the horrible things you have said and done since your loser brother murdered Pam. One more lie your trying to pawn off as the truth, there is not one lawyer for the estate, you have your lawyer and Phil had his own lawyer. Kayla’s lawyer looks out for Kayla’s best interest not the estate. There is not one single lawyer that told you to take the safes from the house hours after your loser brother murdered Pam. By the way the news crew video taped you guys hauling the safes out of the house, they were so apauled by your actions they went up to a family member and informed them if they needed the tape for anything just ask and they could receive a copy. You went through that house and picked it clean just like vultures. You even took Pam’s clothes. How do you live with yourself? You even stole Kyle’s bike and tried to give him some other bike, you tried to steal Pam’s blue couch the only reason you couldn’t was because we had pictures from before she lived with your loser brother.

Read this blog a bit more carefully. Renee didn’t say the T-shirt was designed after Kevin was a loser and commit suicide, she stated that it was inappropriate to wear in front of the mother , sister, father and son of the woman he murdered. Call it bad taste. Kind of like when your husband Jon told Dave Aukerman to have a nice day when he went to pick out the clothes to bury his daughter in. See you forget you don’t get to try and brainwash us like you do everyone else you meet. You don’t get to say oh poor us those evil Aukerman’s keep telling people that my brother murdered Pam. What do you want me to say when someone asks how Pam is doing? What do you expect me to say to that? Do you want me to say she passed away? Sorry, she was murdered by her police officer husband.

New subject, so Renee writing a law to help victims of OIDV is not being productive, reaching out to victims of OIDV is not being productive, going to court and holding the hands of victims of OIDV is not being productive? What have you done Kim Wheeler to help victims and family members of OIDV? Do you tell them it’s their fault that they are being abused? That’s what Pam was told, that’s what your telling her family. Oh that’s right Kevin wasn’t an abuser Pam was the problem, silly me I forgot.

We never said Kevin’s parents played games and ran up attorney fees, we said you played silly games and ran up attorney fees and that is not a lie. The court did not appoint anyone to divide up the belongins you took it upon yourself to take anything and everything you could get your hands on. Funny thing about that you never took any pictures or things that weren’t worth money, except Pam’s Pooh Village and all Pam’s Christmas ornaments from when Kyle, Chase, Chelsie and Kayla were babies. You forgot to tell people that you made sure you took those things. Why do you want Kyle’s baby ornaments? You forgot to mention that you donated Kyle’s books from when he was a little boy to Kayla’s daycare. Didn’t you think maybe he would like to keep them to help remember when his mother was alive, before your loser brother shot and killed her.

So you want me to move on huh? If you haven’t been paying attention we are moving on by helping others not just thinking of ourselves unlike you Kim. Sorry I don’t have to watch out for your feelings you never watch out for mine. You have no problem inflicting pain and suffering whenever you get the chance. Kim Wheeler you are just as evil as your loser brother Kevin.

TOO FUNNY

I received an email this morning from a Plainwell resident: "Aren't you concerned that the Brainards will turn around and claim that 50% of that pool the deputies gave to Kayla and the Aukermans is also thiers?"

Hmmm...knowing how greedy the Brainards [especially Kim] are, that is a thought, eh. So, with that thought in mind I contacted Deputy J.

Here is the email that Deputy J wanted me to send to Deb and Dave Aukerman:

Deb and Dave,
On June 7, 2008 I and several law enforcement officers, purchased a pool, which I am lending you. I request that you do not lend it out to anyone else. Do you mind if I store it in your garage during the winter months?
Sincerely,
Deputy J and M.

HEY KIM BRAINARD-WHEELER, YOU MIGHT WANT TO THANK DEPUTY J AND HIS WIFE M, FOR WHAT THEY DID FOR YOUR NEICE

This past weekend was extremely difficult for Pam's family, and her friends Jenny and Deputy Roberts. For those of you who are not aware, Kim Brainard Wheeler, ran up attorney fees by the 'games' she played with Pam's belongings/estate.

In order for the Aukermans to pay these attorney fees, they were forced to sell each and everyone of Pamela's belongings at a garage sale this past Saturday. Oh hang on, let me back up here: there wasn't much for the Aukermans to sell, because Kim and the rest of the Brainards picked clean Pam's house, like a vulture picks a dead carcus clean within hours of her murder [as video taped by the news media]...and have only given the Aukermans what they didn't want of Pam's.

For instance, selfish Kim made sure that she grabbed four pair of Oakleys [$600] for herself from Pam's house; stole Kyle's bike; and made off with tens of thousands of dollars in household items that have never been inventoried or accounted for.

Meanwhile, one of the items that the Aukermans were forced to sell at Saturday's garage sale, was Kayla's pool: making Kayla another victim of Kim's legal games and her downright greed. Can Kim get anymore revengeful in her games? And what is it going to take for Plainwell to wakeup and realize the hell the Brainards are putting the Aukermans through...and say enough is enough? Because the number one reason why the Brainards are getting away with this garbage is because Plainwell is allowing it.

Now let me compare Plainwell Michigan, to the community in which I reside...you know, the community that took me in, after Deputy Doo Dah attempted to kill me. This past Friday, I was talking to Deputy J and his wife M about the Aukermans being forced to sell off parts of Pam at the garage sale. Unlike Plainwell, they were outraged, that Kayla [whose mommy was murdered] would be forced to sell her pool, in order to pay for the legal fees run up by her mommy's murderer's sister. Ahem.

Deputy J and M went home Friday night, and they began making phone calls to all their friends in law enforcement. By Saturday afternoon, I received the following phone call from Deputy J: "you tell that baby girl and Pam's family, that there is a pool for her sitting in your garage, from her law enforcement buddies out here."

NOW WHY THE HELL COULDN'T PLAINWELL DO THAT FOR KAYLA AND THE AUKERMANS?

So Kim, when you hear Kayla talking about the pool that's "in Aunt Nay's garage", don't go blowing your top. That's what several law enforcement officers did for Kayla and the Aukermans in an effort to undo some of the emotional hell you have put everyone through with your games.

And Kim, whenever you drive by the Aukermans and you see the pool in their yard, keep in mind that not every law enforcement agency or community is as supportive of your hatred/behavior, as Plainwell is. There are some wonderful law enforcement agencies and law enforcement officers, who are downright disgusted by you and your family....and that pool is proof.

FROM PAM'S SISTER, JEN

Justice For Pam
It has been awhile since I have posted on Pam's site. I am trying to get a grip on all this craziness. I still cannot accept my sister was murdered. That she is gone forever. I'll never see her or hear her voice again. I cannot even imagine how Kyle who is turning into a young man. He needs her so bad. And Kayla, she was her Mommy's baby girl. Pam hated to be away from her. Or my parents their baby girl was brutally murdered. My brother David will never be rid of the guilt. He feels he should have done something. We tell him if we had only know, all of us would have gotten her to safety.
I wonder how no one has had to answer for Pam's murder. What about how this has been handled from the lovely CPS worker to the chief of Plainwell Bill Bomar. We cannot forget Ms.Kim. Who along with help from her cousin to her parents and friends. Some will only admit "they only knew her thru soccer'.
We (family and friends) will not rest, we will fight till everyone last one that can be held accountable for Pam's murder is. This is not about revenge. This is about accountability, not revenge. This is about JUSTICE FOR KYLE, JUSTICE FOR KAYLA, JUSTICE FOR PAM, TASER TOO. JUSTICE FOR HER FAMILY AND FRIEND'S. JUSTICE FOR CHASE & CHELSIE.
People will say I'm angry. That I should get some help. Well if people would just stop being stupid and give Pam some respect I might not be so full of anger. This has been a nightmare, Pam was the one who was murdered not Kevin. Kevin, if people have forgotten murdered Pam. I just want justice now.
And whoever it is, we will go up against you. My nephew and niece are without their mom. We will wait for the police report. I cannot wait for that day to come. We will post the report as soon as it becomes available. A new song too. One more thing Kyle is very proud of this site! He loves Renee' for all that she has done (as with the rest of the family). Kayla is her mommy's girl. She is a fighter, she would want justice also for her mommy.
I'll end this post with our mission to get Justice for Pam, Justice for Kyle, Justice for Kayla.
Jennifer

PETITION WEBSITE FOR THE PAM AUKERMAN MICHIGAN OFFICER INVOLVED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE LEGISLATION IS UP AND RUNNING :)

Michigan Officer-Involved Domestic Violence now has two websites up and running for Michigan OIDV petitions. Please take a moment to lend OIDV victims your voice, and sign these petitions. Together, we can bring about change.

TO VIEW THE PETITION FOR PAM'S MICHIGAN OFFICER-INVOLVED DV LEGISLATION:http://mioidvpamslaw.blogspot.com/

TO SIGN THE PETITION FOR PAM'S MICHIGAN OFFICER-INVOLVED DV LEGISLATION: CLICK HERE

TO VIEW THE PETITION FOR THE MICHIGAN OFFICER-INVOLVED DV AWARENESS BILL: http://mioidvawarenesslegislation.blogspot.com/

TO SIGN THE PETITION FOR THE MICHIGAN OFFICER-INVOLVED DV AWARENESS BILL: CLICK HERE

PAM AUKERMAN'S WEBSITE: http://pamaukermanbrainard.blogspot.com/

FOR MORE INFORMATION ON NATIONAL OFFICER-INVOLVED DOMESTIC :VIOLENCE: http://behindthebluewall.blogspot.com/

EMAIL ADDRESS, TO CONTACT PAMELA AUKERMAN'S FAMILY: mioidvpamslaw@aol.com


Thank you,
The Aukerman Family
&
Michigan Officer-Involved Domestic Violence

LET US KNOW WHEN YOU FINALLY 'GET IT', GLORIA.

P.S. Gloria: Pam's autopsy report is in, which finally lays to rest the lies that you and the rest of your family have been spreading about how YOUR SON murdered Pam. Betcha haven't told any of your followers about the autopsy report being in, eh.

How about the gun shot wound that your son fired into Pam's mouth? The bullet entered under her tongue. Make the 'N' sound for the word 'NO!' Gloria. What's the position of your tongue? What do you think was the last word that Pam screamed, before YOUR SON murdered her/shot her?

NICE T-SHIRT, GLORIA

I thought I had heard and seen it all...but along come the Brainards. Let's just say, that these last few months of witnessing the Brainards in action, as they repeatidly strike out at the Aukermans, is just unbelievable. Sometimes I often wonder, how many hours a day the Brainards waste on 'what they are going to do next, to the Aukermans'. Heck, with the amount of energy they have exerted in re-victimizing Pam's family and friends, they could have re-directed their energy, and done something productive...like world peace...save the whales...etc.

Anywho, Gloria Brainard showed up to pick Kayla up from visitation last week wearing a T-shirt....and it wasn't just any t-shirt. Ooooooooooooh noooooooooooooooo! The T-shirt that Gloria had chosen to wear that day...knowing that she was going to be face to face with the mother whose daughter had been brutally murdered by her son, had some special printing on the front of it: "OTSEGO FIRE DEPARTMENT. KEVIN."

And people in Plainwell have the frickin nerve to say that the Aukermans are the problem? HULLO!!!!!!!!!

Please send me your mailing address Gloria. I updated your wardrobe for you, and purchased you this season's latest 'Kevin T-shirt'. "MY SON, OFFICER KEVIN BRAINARD, MURDERED PAMELA AUKERMAN".